I almost fell out of my chair when I read that! After the initial introductory email, here's the email exchange I had a few years ago with a pot SB about meeting for dinner to get to know each other first. I'm not making this up!!
Me:
For our first meeting I think meeting for a nice dinner would be a good start. It's important to see that there is mutual attraction and chemistry and see how well we get along together. Then we can take it from there. What kind of food do you like and what are your favorite restaurants?
Her:
well...i hate to be blunt...but that's not really been my thing...i mean dinner's a little too intimate for me...i'll go to dinner though...but i expect to be compensated for my time....as this approach is somewhat new to me...chemistry has never been a problem....i mean, if i went to dinner with everyone that wanted to....i'd never find a real sugar daddy who understands my needs....and it's not just a free meal...so think about it...and u've seen my pics...so i think attraction is not a problem...but i'm definitely here for a sugar daddy....restaurant choice should u choose to partake is (name of a five star steakhouse).
[So she thinks attraction won't be a problem... but what if she doesn't look like her pics? And how does she know chemistry won't be a problem when we haven't even met in person?]
Me:
I understand where you're coming from. Of course you don't want to go to dinner with anyone who asks, you want to be selective. On the other hand, I don't want to pay someone just to have dinner with me. We both invest our time to see if there is a good match. And if money is the only thing you care about then obviously we're not a good match.
Her:
it is a sugar daddy site....but i've had it fulfilled before so i know it's not an impossible request...but i thank you anyway....i mean, if u dont think i'm here to get financial compensation...then i'm sorry if there was a misunderstanding....if u dont need to pay someone for anything....maybe this isnt the site for u....i just have a different approach when it comes to these things...well...have a blast here ....if u change your mind and realize what's money anyway....then u can email me and we'll meet....
[There's that old trick... "what's money anyway", implying that if you're a real SD then surely you don't mind throwing some money away. Ummm.. I don't think so!]
Me:
Perhaps you mis-understood what I was trying to say. Yes, we all know this is a SD site and we're here for a reason. I don't have any problem providing for my SB financially once we determine that we're a good match and have an arrangement. But if every potential SB I meet ask for money just to have lunch/dinner with me, how do I know which one is sincere and not just looking at me as a walking ATM?
I think it's fair that both men and women invest their time initially to find out whether the other person is right for them. You seem to assume that you're the right one already and are asking for compensation just to go to dinner. Think about how that comes across to a potential SD. Of course it's only money.... but if I want to throw it away I could do it at the casino! We do have different approaches and that's ok. Like I said we're probably not a good match anyway. Good luck!
Her:
yep...u'll be surprised how many have given me so much just to have dinner with me or grace them with my presence...all SD's to me are just walking ATM's....check my profile...i said it...nothing wrong with that....a walking ATM that gets to be with a goddess like me....
[Whoa, now she's showing her true color! Are you fucking kidding me??]
Whoa.. She clearly has entitlement issues, and a complete lack of decency. You should have let her have it. If I were you I definitely would have chewed her out.
ReplyDeletehaha that girl's pretty stuck up. But whatever works for some, right? There are men who go for it,let me tell you...
ReplyDeleteReally like your blog SD Guru.
Check out my journal some time:
http://www.anescortblog.com/
smack a ho
ReplyDeleteoh my god!!!!!!!!!!!! hahahaha.....
ReplyDeleteI'd say her last message is nothing more than wishful thinking and insecurity. Trying to make someone believe something to blatantly false... gotta love it!
ReplyDelete@SF SB - I've learned from my experience there is no need to set someone straight or chew someone out. I simply explain my position and move on. I don't want to get into an argument about what someone thinks they're worth or what their expectations are. I've got better things to do!
ReplyDelete@M - Thanks for reading my blog! You're right that some guy out there might just go after someone like her despite the attitude.
@Kitty Khat - I thought she actually believed in what she said!
I found it very ironic when she assured that chemistry would not be a problem,simplying because you've seen her pictures and money was all she was worried about,tsk
ReplyDeleteI had to go through my emails and make sure that wasn't me ;)
ReplyDelete@Anny Sugar - It's a common problem with younger SB's who think they're very attractive. They don't realize that while looks may open doors, it's their brains and attitude that will attract a SD to come back for more.
ReplyDelete@College SB - This happened a few years ago so I'm sure it wasn't you!
Oh snap! I used to do this approach... but much more elloquently... there was a time in the sugar bowl when men were more than willing to compensate me to have dinner with them...
ReplyDeletep.s. you are my walking GTM (Guru teller machine)
@Goal Digger - So that was YOU in the email!! LOL... I'm sure being charming and eloquent you can pretty much get any guy to do whatever you want. I don't mind paying someone to go to dinner if I knew dessert was included! :p So what do you get from the GTM??
ReplyDeleteHow embarrasing, genuine sds who might come across these types of girls might start believing that we're all like that!
ReplyDeleteWhat I notice is her excessive use of "...", which is a clear lack of social/communication skills.
ReplyDelete@Yeva - I understand not all SB's are like that, but she proved that those type does exist.
ReplyDelete@Rachel - If she really wanted to be "paid" for going to dinner, she sure did a very poor job of selling her proposition. What wants to go to dinner with someone like that, let alone having to pay?