Sex, Money, and Sugar - Part 1

I'll take a break from telling stories to start a multi-part series titled "Sex, Money, and Sugar" to discuss the intricate nature between sex and money in a sugar relationship.

Part 1 - SD's income/wealth/budget vs SB's expected allowance

On sa.com a SD's profile includes information about his income, net worth, and budget for an arrangement, and a SB's profile includes her expected allowance. But like everything else on the internet, keep in mind anyone can create a profile and put whatever they want in it.  Therefore it's probably not a good idea to take everything you see at face value and assume the information is accurate.

I usually look at whatever is listed for expected allowance in SB profiles with a grain of salt. There are SB’s who consider the amount of allowance as their most important criteria and therefore will not be flexible. And there are SB’s who will consider the amount of allowance along with other factors and are willing to be flexible. Then there are SB’s who purposely put a large amount to weed out the undesirables but are willing to consider less from the right SD. You won’t know which type you’re dealing with until you have a dialog with them. Once you figure out what you’re dealing with then you can proceed accordingly.

Here's one of the most counter intuitive lessons for SD’s to learn. That is, the amount of allowance may not be directly related to the quality of relationship and experience. A higher allowance can usually get you younger and hotter arm candy, but there is no guarantee for a better experience. For example, would you have better chemistry with a SB because she is asking for a higher allowance? Or, would a SB asking for a higher allowance be more reliable?

Likewise, I’d suggest SB’s to look at a SD’s listed income/net worth with a grain of salt. Some SD’s purposely under state it because they don’t want pot SB’s to have unrealistic expectations. Some SD’s purposely over state it to attract SB’s that they otherwise wouldn’t be able to attract.

Here's one of the most counter intuitive lessons for SB’s to learn. That is, a SD’s wealth, income, and lifestyle may not directly relate to how generous and how willing he is to provide an allowance. He has to be able and willing to do so. Some wealthy men are willing to spend lots of money on fine dining, travel, and gifts because they think sharing a piece of their lifestyle is good enough to be a SD. But when it comes to providing an allowance they think there is a stigma associated with it as if they’re too good to be “paying” for a SB. Therefore, for SB's who are looking for an allowance, these wealthy men will just end up wasting their time.

Coming up - Part 2, Allowance in Real Dollar Terms