"Is it prostitution, or a brutally honest search for happiness?"...
The announcer asked rhetorically as the Nightline segment began. First part of the video featured Tommy, a 63 year old SD who is thrice divorced, and Monty, a 21 year old college student who has been his SB for two years. He said he paid for her tuition and drops $5k a month on her. It's always interesting to dig a little deeper behind the numbers. Is the $5k/month on top of the tuition? And what portion of that is shopping/travel vs allowance? The video also showed her thanking him for her boob job. How did that factor into the equation? By the way, did anyone notice the size of Monty's tattoos?
Like previous media coverages, the video sensationalizes the sugar world and reinforces stereotypes in the name of entertainment. Of course the SD is older looking with gray hairs, lives in a water front mansion with a housekeeper and chauffeur, has exotic cars, travels the world, and only shops at high end stores, etc etc. The SB is of course a young college student, slim, attractive, and broke. We know in reality there are many types of SD and SB's, but the media contniues to perpetuate these stereotypes that the general public have come to expect.
Then we find out Tommy has 6 other SB's (!!) and he spends $150k per year as a SD. Again, if we dig a little deeper into the numbers, that implies there is $90K left for him to spend on the other 6 SB's which amounts to $1250/month each. Does Monty know she's only 1 of his 7 SB's? And how would his other SB's feel about getting the short end of the deal compared to what Monty got??
Tommy compared SB's to nice cars and explained that there are different levels of SB's like there are Walmart SB's and Neiman SB's, it just depends on which price range you want to shop in.. He also said he would not have SB's for companionship only, because sex is an important part of the sugar relationship. Some might take issues with his comments, but I think he's just being honest. For a wealthy man like him with plenty of disposable income, choosing to spend money on cars is like choosing to spend money on SB's. He wants the wow and arm candy factor and is willing to spend more to get the "look at what I have" effect.
Monty said: "I'm just having fun... I experience things I would have never experienced without him." But when asked about having sex with a much older man, she said: "It is what it is... we all mature... so I'm going to be old one day and I hope I'll get loving too." She was clearly uncomfortable with the question and we can interpret it to mean that she wasn't excited about having sex with Tommy. But then.... should a young woman have sex with guys her age in the name of love and passion but gets nothing out of it, or is she smarter by having sex with an older man who can take care of her?? I thought the best quote was when Tommy was asked whether this is prostitution, he said "You pay somehow somewhere for sex no matter what it is."
The second part of the video features 24 year old Olympia who is a student and juggles mulitple SD's. She's been a SB for 5 years and she's got her $15k tuition paid for, brand new boobs (see a trend here?), etc etc. She was at the airport going to meet her main SD, Larry, in Louisiana. But her other SD, Kenny, met her at the airport to see her off. Then Kenny asked Olympia if she needs money and she said yes, so he took out a wad of benjamins and gave her what appeared to be $500. The whole scene just looked manipulative on Olympia's part and tacky on Kenny's part. If Kenny knew she was going to see another SD, would he still come to the airport to send her off and give her cash?
Then came the most interesting part of the video... Larry is a Mormon from Utah and he has been Olympia's SD for a year and a half. When Larry was asked whether there is sex in the relationship he said: "No... not at this point... we don't believe in having pre-martial sex."
SERIOUSLY??
In the video you can tell by Larry and Olympia's body language that somebody is probably lying. Does Larry know she has other SD's? And is Olympia having sex with other SD's but not with Larry?? Inquiring minds want to know! LOL... Olympia described having a SD without sleeping with him is like "a dream". Well, in the sugar world that is indeed a dream for most SB's, not a reality.
The last part of the video shows a sobbing Monty saying: "sometimes it gets to me to know that he's my only way of income." Then a wistful Olympia said being in a sugar relationship does get lonely for her because "that person can't always be there for me when I need them to be."
Then the voice over concludes: "An emotional loss they believe is worth the financial gains."
In addition to the questions I thought should have been asked above, it would be nice if the segment went into the "end game" or "exit strategy" for the SB's. Since both SB's are college students, we'd presume that they know there is life after sugar and have made plans for it. Overall, this segment is similar to others where media coverage of the sugar world always focus on two main topics: “is it prostitution” and “is sex involved”. So from that perspective it’s more of the same. However, it was good to see that Tommy, Monty, and Olympia gave thoughtful responses as described in the SA Blog.
All things considered, this segment turned out as good as can be expected, so kudos to Brandon at SA for pulling it off!!
Sugardaddy Chronicles
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
A Valentine's Fantasy - His Version, Part 1
It's that time of the year already, and someone from the SA Blog reminded me that I should finish "A Valentine's Fantasy, Her Version" by posting "his version." Please note the usual disclaimers apply.
She first contacted him through one of the online sugar discussion groups, then from that initial email it developed into a conversation about their views on sugar relationships. She was new to the concept and was intrigued by the idea of being a modern day courtesan/geisha. She was single, mid 30's, no kids, mature, intelligent, articulate, and writes really well. She works as a freelance writer for a good reason. Then as Valentine's day approached, she told him about two disappointing dates she had recently. To make her feel better, he asked her what would be her ideal Valentine's date. She responded with this email to describe her "fantasy" to be spoiled:
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Subject: Awakened in the middle of the night by cats in heat
The cats on the farm where I live are all in heat and I can't sleep for their rolling and trilling and yowling. Yes, an urban farm is an oddity, where 13 feet of topsoil grace the foothills of the mountains now considered too lovely to waste on farm fields. Next door, a golf resort spreads onto every lot it can append and the former flower farm is now a Target parking lot.
The neighboring farm stopped feeding its ferals, and since I haven't followed suit, they all come here for a late dinner, and lately, they stay the night with the slutty little felines who live in my attic. It's time to revive one of my recent past times: trapping, taming, bathing, clipping, preening, feeding, vaccinating, fixing, collaring and adopting out stray cats.
I suppose this feline frenzy fits felicitously with our Valentine's Day imaginings. Maybe a sugar daddy like you shares my feral-primping past time, in a way, for my fantasy Valentine's Day includes being pampered, bathed, manicured, pedicured and massaged at a day spa, until my silken strands and skin glow so touchably that my human can't wait to pet me; shopping for that perfect, little red dress and lingerie to hug my curves, those cute, strappy heels that lift me near enough to kiss you on a whim, and a glittery collar to showcase my sparkling eyes; and then dining on rare Ahi tuna and walnut apple salad over purring conversation until we can't wait to take our bowl of creamy desert upstairs, where we will roll and trill and yowl 'til 2 a.m., waking the humans below and dotting their dreams with images of svelt bodies writhing and licking each other in dark attics.
Dreaming ...
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Sensing an opportunity for a magical encounter, he offered to make her wish come true if she could come visit him. She jumped on the offer and although it was last minute, he was still able to make the arrangements that she wanted. She is older than the typical sugarbaby that he would look for, but the pics she had sent to him looked nice. So he was hopeful from the physical attraction perspective. When he picked her up from the airport he thought she looked about her age and was attractive, and he was not disappointed but not too excited yet. He took her to the hotel to get settled in, and they kissed and caressed each other for a bit before going down stairs for lunch. He thought she really liked him and she was very complimentary about his looks. It was very flattering and a big boost to his ego, which also made her more attractive to him.
After lunch he took her to the spa for her pamper session. It was a last minute arrangement but worked out perfectly. She was greeted with a rose, chocolate covered strawberries, and a glass of champagne. While she was at the spa he got some work done and went back to the hotel room to wait for her. When she came back she was feeling pretty good and it didn't take long for them to end up in bed and explore each other's body. But she caught herself and started to hold back saying that she wasn't ready. He didn't push the issue and told her that she didn't have to do anything she was not comfortable with. He thought she was having difficulty with the idea of being intimate with someone she just met, so he figured he should let her do things at her own pace.
He had agreed to take her shopping to get a nice outfit, but by now she said she needed time to get ready for dinner so he didn't argue with that. She wasn't kidding about taking the time to primp and get herself ready. It must have taken about two hours while he waited patiently. But the wait was well worth it and she looked very attractive and radiant and even appears younger than her age. Being last minute, it was difficult to find a good table on Valentine's day so they ended up at the bar of a very crowded jazz club. After a few drinks and some appetizers they decided that they were probably better off going back to the hotel with a bottle of wine for a more intimate time.
Coming up... what happened next!
She first contacted him through one of the online sugar discussion groups, then from that initial email it developed into a conversation about their views on sugar relationships. She was new to the concept and was intrigued by the idea of being a modern day courtesan/geisha. She was single, mid 30's, no kids, mature, intelligent, articulate, and writes really well. She works as a freelance writer for a good reason. Then as Valentine's day approached, she told him about two disappointing dates she had recently. To make her feel better, he asked her what would be her ideal Valentine's date. She responded with this email to describe her "fantasy" to be spoiled:
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Subject: Awakened in the middle of the night by cats in heat
The cats on the farm where I live are all in heat and I can't sleep for their rolling and trilling and yowling. Yes, an urban farm is an oddity, where 13 feet of topsoil grace the foothills of the mountains now considered too lovely to waste on farm fields. Next door, a golf resort spreads onto every lot it can append and the former flower farm is now a Target parking lot.
The neighboring farm stopped feeding its ferals, and since I haven't followed suit, they all come here for a late dinner, and lately, they stay the night with the slutty little felines who live in my attic. It's time to revive one of my recent past times: trapping, taming, bathing, clipping, preening, feeding, vaccinating, fixing, collaring and adopting out stray cats.
I suppose this feline frenzy fits felicitously with our Valentine's Day imaginings. Maybe a sugar daddy like you shares my feral-primping past time, in a way, for my fantasy Valentine's Day includes being pampered, bathed, manicured, pedicured and massaged at a day spa, until my silken strands and skin glow so touchably that my human can't wait to pet me; shopping for that perfect, little red dress and lingerie to hug my curves, those cute, strappy heels that lift me near enough to kiss you on a whim, and a glittery collar to showcase my sparkling eyes; and then dining on rare Ahi tuna and walnut apple salad over purring conversation until we can't wait to take our bowl of creamy desert upstairs, where we will roll and trill and yowl 'til 2 a.m., waking the humans below and dotting their dreams with images of svelt bodies writhing and licking each other in dark attics.
Dreaming ...
---------------------------
Sensing an opportunity for a magical encounter, he offered to make her wish come true if she could come visit him. She jumped on the offer and although it was last minute, he was still able to make the arrangements that she wanted. She is older than the typical sugarbaby that he would look for, but the pics she had sent to him looked nice. So he was hopeful from the physical attraction perspective. When he picked her up from the airport he thought she looked about her age and was attractive, and he was not disappointed but not too excited yet. He took her to the hotel to get settled in, and they kissed and caressed each other for a bit before going down stairs for lunch. He thought she really liked him and she was very complimentary about his looks. It was very flattering and a big boost to his ego, which also made her more attractive to him.
After lunch he took her to the spa for her pamper session. It was a last minute arrangement but worked out perfectly. She was greeted with a rose, chocolate covered strawberries, and a glass of champagne. While she was at the spa he got some work done and went back to the hotel room to wait for her. When she came back she was feeling pretty good and it didn't take long for them to end up in bed and explore each other's body. But she caught herself and started to hold back saying that she wasn't ready. He didn't push the issue and told her that she didn't have to do anything she was not comfortable with. He thought she was having difficulty with the idea of being intimate with someone she just met, so he figured he should let her do things at her own pace.
He had agreed to take her shopping to get a nice outfit, but by now she said she needed time to get ready for dinner so he didn't argue with that. She wasn't kidding about taking the time to primp and get herself ready. It must have taken about two hours while he waited patiently. But the wait was well worth it and she looked very attractive and radiant and even appears younger than her age. Being last minute, it was difficult to find a good table on Valentine's day so they ended up at the bar of a very crowded jazz club. After a few drinks and some appetizers they decided that they were probably better off going back to the hotel with a bottle of wine for a more intimate time.
Coming up... what happened next!
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