Mixing Love and Sugar - Part 7

Part 7 - What Really Happened?

The last email from her caught me completely off guard. I can't believe how someone so close to me just a few weeks ago could become so cold and heartless so quickly. I had more questions than answers. But instead of moving on, I was determined to go down the rabbit hole to find the pieces and figure out what might have really happened.

As I mentioned before, there were things she told me about herself and her work that didn't seem quite right. But I chose to ignore them and enjoyed our time together instead. Now I need to retrace the steps and see what warning signs I might have missed.

When I asked her about her work in the beginning, this was her response:

"I am looking for someone who is successful and can potentially travel with me. I do part-time consulting for an organization that holds seminars and conferences around the nation. For this reason I usually end up traveling at least once or twice a month. This aspect would make it easy for me to get away without my husband thinking twice about my reasons for being gone."

When I talked to her more about her work, she said the conferences are in the financial field and she works for an older couple that owns the business but mainly with the lady. She described her work as administrative and like a personal assistant to the older lady. She found this job at the beginning of the year and she traveled to NY and LA for work before she met me. When I asked about her travels she said she flies first class and stays at five star hotels. Sounds like a pretty good job! When I asked her if I can join her during one of her business trips, she said it's not a good idea because she spends a lot time with her boss at dinners and social functions. This is contrary to what she said about looking for someone who can travel with her. She continued to use her "work" as an excuse with her husband when she was meeting with me.

She also told me about a trip she took to Vegas a couple of weeks before we went to Chicago. It was supposed to be a fun trip with her girlfriends. She mentioned that she had won a jackpot and bought herself a very expensive watch with it. Lucky her! She showed me the watch and it was very nice.

When she first wrote to me I was surprised that she was very savvy about meeting people from the internet even though she said she was new to it. In fact she wrote to me the same day she created her profile. And yet she seemed to already know there are many scammers, flakes, and time wasters to sort through on that site.

After weeks of reflection, putting together the pieces, talking to other SD/SB's, and some old fashioned sleuth work, I think I have finally figured out what really happened. It actually feels liberating to finally know the truth, it's a way for me to find closure on my own and move on.

Coming up - Going down the rabbit hole