Part 2 - Dipping into the online sugar world
Due to my busy schedule and marital status, freestyling to meet pot SB's in real life was not a viable option so I focused my activities online. I have also tried sites such as Sugardaddyforme, MillionaireMatch, AshleyMadison, MarriedSecrets, CraigsList, AdultFriendFinder, and even regular dating sites like Match. But eventually it became clear that Sugardaddie.com and later Seekingarrangement.com were the best sites for me because of its target audience and higher level of activities on the site. And then as sugardaddie.com evolved into a more traditional dating site, seekingarrangement.com became the primary source of pot SB's. There are also several copycat sites, but it appears that they don't have the critical mass of members to be useful yet.
When I joined sugardaddie.com in the early days of online sugar dating, my intention was to find an on-going relationship with someone who I enjoy being with and I could provide some assistance to. I wasn't going to support someone full time or on a monetary basis so I didn't plan to provide an allowance. I thought I could provide the finer things in life like travel, shopping, fine dining, spa, etc to someone who is doing fine on her own but could not normally afford those things by herself. After getting tired of the transactional nature of seeing escorts, I thought I was going to be a gift/travel SD and not an allowance SD.
Over the years I had come in contact with a large number of women but only a small percentage actually resulted in meeting in person. Nevertheless, I have met hundreds of women in person from a wide range of socioeconomic backgrounds that I otherwise wouldn't have the opportunity to meet in real life. For example, in no particular order, I've met Ivy League graduates, law school and med school students, nurses, Playboy models, porn stars, fashion models, pageant queens, escorts, strippers, teachers, waitresses, bartenders, secretaries, cosmetologists, estheticians, massage therapists, hair/make up stylists, college students, personal trainers, scholarship athletes, small business owners, aspiring actress/model/artists/musicians… and the list goes on. Each pot SB brings something unique to the table and it’s up the to the SD to realize and cultivate the potential.
There are those who have been in the sugar world far longer than I have, and some had successful long term relationships and some led to marriages. It's literally taken that much time and meeting that many pot SB's for me to figure out what I really want and what I should be looking for. And of course I got better at screening pot SB's as I gained more experience during the process. Back in the early days of online sugar dating (imagine life before google, facebook, twitter, and blogs became popular!) the pickings were slim and flakes and scammers roamed freely. I had to look outside my local area but since I traveled frequently for business distance was not a big issue. Based on my experience, it's pretty easy to meet young and attractive pot SB's during the process. But it's not as easy to find the right person in the right situation for a sugar relationship that lasts.
Coming up, my first "long term" SB.
:) Always such a pleasure to read your posts
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