SB's vs Escorts is one of the most popular topics in the sugar world. Before I address that issue I think it will be useful to see how my views and experiences have evolved over time as a sugardaddy. Please note the usual disclaimers apply and keep in mind my POV.
First, a little bit about me. I'm well educated and well traveled, and I have a successful career in the corporate world. I live a very comfortable life and I don't have to worry about my financial future. Most pot SB's I've met told me that if I were single I could be a good catch, and I should have no problem attracting women 10+ years younger than me. Although most people would consider me as wealthy, I identify myself more with "The Millionaire Next Door" than with "The Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous". But I am no stranger to the five star high life either. I have earned everything I have through hard work and discipline. In many ways my background steered me to look for a certain type of SB.
I used to be active in the escort scene mainly in the cities I traveled to for business. When I dealt with escorts on a regular basis it was pretty clear to me what constitutes an escort. They advertise their services with clearly defined rates and there is no screening other than for safety. It was easy to arrange an appointment and there was no need to consider mutual attraction, compatibility and chemistry so just about anyone who can pay the advertised rate can do it. To really get what I want in terms of looks and services it took some work to research escort reviews to make sure my money was well spent.
Although I had met some wonderful women during that time, I felt there was something missing. Seeing escorts, while sexually satisfying, was essentially an one time or short term transaction. Eventually I started to see some of my favorites directly without going through an agency, met them "off the clock" by taking them to lunch or dinner, took one to a ski trip, and even visited one at her home and met her son. When I looked back on it, it was the start of my sugardaddy intentions even though I didn't know that's what it was called at the time. And if I had known better, I probably could have started sugar relationships with them.
Over time I grew tired of the transactional nature of this approach and longed for something more, such as passion, intimacy, connection, chemistry, and mentorship, but without the strings, games, and drama of a typical affair. And of course one night stands and random hook ups won't even come close to what I was looking for. Therefore I thought a NSA sugar relationship would satisfy my needs. In my mind there is a clear difference between SB's and escorts, and I certainly know it when I see it. So I started to explore sugar relationships online when Sugardaddie.com came on the scene.
Coming up... dipping into the online sugar world
SD Guru,
ReplyDelete:) I like this post because it's part of a question I asked in the earlier comments! Thanks so much for bringing up this topic.
At one point, during my experimental stages, I advertised as a very exclusive companion (escort). My rates were much higher than the average and I preferred multiple hour bookings.
Some of the clients I attracted connected with me on a level beyond regular "client". I felt like we can chat and get to know each other beyond the sexual. Which was satisfying. And over time a sort of trust developed between them and me.
I found that this trust was real on my side but not on theirs, because after some time had passed they started to take advantage. Disrespect my boundaries and make rude comments. They were also very snobbish.
I decided those days were over, and it just wasn't the game for me. I no longer wanted to open up my mind to them. I'm not sure why it happened, was it because in the end I was still an escort in their minds?
Thanks,
Sexy Sadie
Sadie, thanks for sharing your experience. I don't have a good answer as to why things happened that way in your case. My experience from the other side was similar. Even though I saw some of my favorites off the clock and did things outside of the bedroom as I described, I felt there was still a barrier as if they preferred to view me only as a client. There was one exception where I thought we could have developed the relationship further, but unfortunately the timing wasn't right so it didn't happen.
ReplyDeleteSo me being the geek that I am I did some research. I find it interesting that the modern day Escort may have evolved from the Courtesan of Renaissance Europe. Of a lower class I can see this but it seems the higher class Courtier is more like the Sugar Baby of today. No we are not attending court but it is something I think is worth looking at if there is a history to the Sugar lifestyle and where it may have evolved from.
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